When the House Feels Quieter: Coping with Empty Nest Moments
September often brings a wave of change. For some, little ones are starting school for the first time. For others, teenagers are heading off to college, or older children are packing up for university. Even parents whose children have been home over the summer may suddenly feel the silence when they return to their studies.
Whatever the situation, these moments can stir up many emotions.
Mixed Feelings Are Normal
You might feel pride as your child takes their next step, excitement for their future, and relief at having more time for yourself. At the same time, you may also notice sadness, loneliness, or a sense of being unsettled. All of these feelings are valid. They often come hand in hand, and it is natural to experience them in waves.
Why It Can Feel So Big
When children grow and become more independent, it is not just their routine that changes, but ours too. The daily structure of school runs, meal times, and family noise shifts, leaving space that can feel strange or even uncomfortable. It is also common to feel a shift in identity — the role of “mum” or “dad” can feel less central, which may bring questions about “what now?”
Gentle Ways to Support Yourself
Acknowledge your feelings – Allow yourself to feel whatever comes up without judgement. Missing your child does not mean you are not proud of them.
Create small new routines – Having things to look forward to, whether a morning walk, meeting a friend, or starting a new project, can help ease the transition.
Reconnect with yourself – Hobbies, interests, or even simple quiet moments that may have been squeezed out by busy family life can be revisited.
Reach out – Talk to friends or family who may be going through similar changes. Sharing experiences can be reassuring.
A Time of Adjustment
Like all transitions, getting used to an emptier home takes time. The silence that feels strange at first may eventually become space for rest, reflection, and new beginnings.
If you are finding the adjustment particularly difficult, know that you are not alone. Talking things through with someone you trust can help you navigate the changes with more ease.
